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Pregnancy and Sex

Dr. Shalini Kapoor Kad
Jan. 20, 2010

A homoeopathic paediatrician, a counselling expert and a freelance writer are a few words to describe my profession. My sole aim is to put forth practical piece of information that guides every one right in the direction, blending the medicos to a layman with a simple gesture to make the medical things a little less convoluted and comprehendible.


Pregnancy and Sex

Horny while pregnant

Irrespective of gender, age and stage of life, sex is an essential requirement of every biological being. Each one with hormonal stimulations and aggravations need to fulfil the sexual desire; failure to do so often leads to frustration, agitation, lack of concentration or in severe cases may also shape up as depression. Though many theories, surveys and discussions have been put forth to justify on the sexual life of a couple who want a child or for those who have just been blessed with a kid. Simply scheduling their frequency and time periods for sex, but many a times it is observed that the period of nine months is kept completely aloof from the word sex. 

Global acceptance of the sexual desire during pregnancy is a very much essential subject and should be brainstormed deeper and deeper. Expecting a couple to completely give up on sex for the gestation period is erratic and unpractical. But organising and limiting the boundaries under medical guidance is innate for a safe and healthy infant. The following is a summation of some crucial queries and facts enlightening more and more on the subject. 

Safe sex during pregnancy

The foremost aspect for this kind of sex is the willingness of both the partners and gynaecologist’s approval. It is not uncommon to find expecting females feeling uneasy with sex attributed to their large belly size or gestational changes with morning sickness, sensitive breasts, increased

frequency of urine, discolouration etc. Further a doctor’s advice is essential to assure a normal pregnancy with no history of miscarriages, bleeding, complications etc discussed later in the write.


Involving in rigorous sexual activities is to be prohibited in the initial three months with regards to infection and the developing egg. The first trimester a female has to pay extra attention to the physical demands, is expected to resort to foreplay and lesser penetrating activities. Though the second trimester is somewhat safe and advisable to have sex but one has to be cautious each time. The last three months a large tummy and gestational body changes make the whole process a very troublesome one. It is advisable to limit as sex may cause problems for the baby and in extreme cases may also lead to early bursting of the water bag and further complications.

How to do sex?

The passionate act should always be a little subdued and gentle. A comfort level should always be maintained.  Never a partner during the oral sex should blow any air in the vagina as this may lead to air embolism risking both lives. Also an expecting mother should avoid sex with a partner who has a history or is suffering from any infection or sexually transmitted disorders. 

Never to do sex

The following are some situations when a couple should take an off from sex for the entire nine months:-

  • Positive history of a miscarriage, premature labour or delivery
  • Vaginal bleeding
  • Placenta Previa, it is a medical condition in which the placenta (the cord that attaches the mother and the developing child transferring all nutrition and essentials during the gestation) is placed downward nears the cervix. Performing sex in such a condition can lead to disruption, infection and even abortion, sex should be strictly avoided in this case
  • Multiple pregnancy, if a mother bears more than one child then sex can be suffocating, hard and dangerous at times
  • Incompetent cervix, if a mother bears a dilated cervix then sex is seriously a no in this case 

Sex and the developing foetus

In case of a normal pregnancy, sex can be practiced but little cautions as the foetus is all protected with the amniotic sac. The sac safeguards and also aids no direct contact of the male reproductive organ during the penetration.  Cervical seal also protects and allows a couple to have sex without causing any trouble to the sac.

Can sexual activities lead to premature delivery or labour?

Though sex should be prohibited in the last stages of gestation as semen with contraction stimulating bodies may sometimes prematurely initiate the delivery process.

When to seek help?

Though sex is a normal activity of the three trimesters but as mentioned earlier should always be pondered over with a gynaecologist and should be conducted with all necessary precautions. Apart from these there are few signs which should never be ignored if observed and demand medical help:-

  • Any different sensation, symptom or sign after sex. If an expecting mother experiences any pain, swelling or any other unusual feature then it is time to seek help
  • Bleeding / discharge, this calls immediate reaction and medical aid
  • Increased contractions immediately after intercourse need to be checked too.

However, many myths hover in the direction of being horny during gestation and their side effects but the above clearly proves to enjoy sex with all required parameters. The key to the entire process lies in the understanding of both partners.

A female considering the sexual demands of a male should take a step forward and say yes to the most beautiful asset adjoining two lives, sex. And a male partner without rushing and being aggressive should give her time and comfort to relax. Both should understand being happy and jovial is essential to restore the health of three the man, woman and the developing child.          

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